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What We Get Wrong About The Soft Boy Scam

Written by Derek MacDonald | June 16, 2025

What We Get Wrong About The Soft Boy Scam by Derek MacDonald

Why vulnerability isn't the same as emotional honesty.

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We need to teach people that collaboration earns approval instead of teaching them that conquering does.

Men learn early that effort is required to earn approval, validation, and love. If we can normalize non-transactional vulnerability, we’ll help folks build self-esteem that doesn’t require someone else to maintain it.

After all, everyone wants to love and be loved.

And, love is something you contribute.

Not something you conquer.

onward.

-dmac